…In the day I spent catfishing as a handsome hunk on a popular dating site, I learned that it really isn’t even about looks most of the time. I learned that this other guy may have looked a lot different than me…but not necessarily better in any way. We were each handsome in our own ways. I learned that we’re not in competition with each other, as we’re all looking for different things, pursuing different goals, and vibing on different levels. There’s enough food, water, shelter and love for everyone if we can just let it be so. It may sound like something out of a fairy tale, but I truly believe everyone has a chance to find someone to love. All looks, all sizes, shapes, and skin colors…I do believe there’s a perfect match out there somewhere for you. Perhaps several perfect matches. My handsome avatar and I didn’t have to compete. He didn’t have to exist at all. My looks didn’t matter. His looks didn’t matter. We each had the same shot at finding a compatible match for us.……I realized that I must’ve been in a pretty low state emotionally, if I’d been insecure enough to wonder how a “better looking” guy would fare on the same dating site. But that’s the state I was in and that’s what I was thinking. “Why do I have such bad luck on dating sites?!” When I really didn’t. Or “I’ll never meet anyone on these sites!” When I’d already met and/or dated several women I met on these very websites. A general frustration stemming from a deeper problem I later identified that dated back to my childhood. Ultimately, the problem was my attitude and the negative vibes I was putting out to the universe. I was a positive and cheery person on the outside, but inwardly I was lonely, bitter, and insecure. That was why I was having such bad luck on dating sites. Often I found that when my mood and my outlook improved, my results also improved. I could have realized all these things before I catfished as another guy, but I didn’t. I’d say the best lesson I learned here is that it’s pointless to compare yourself to others. Unless it’s for science.……